If you are an introvert, this post is for you. If you are also a personal trainer, this post is definitely for you.
Unfortunately, I did not grow up with the understanding that I am an introvert. I spent all of my life feeling “quirky” and “separate” (my fellow introverts probably understand what I mean by “separate”). One day, last year, a friend sent me a funny comic titled “Guide to Understanding the Introverted.” My mind was blown!
You see, I’ve since discovered that I am a INFJ personality type (I took the personality test 3 different times, on different days). INFJ’s are the rarest personality type, making up only 1% of the population. My Mom is also an INFJ! So, I’m pretty sure my DNA cannot be changed, nor would I want it to be. Being an introvert is strangely awesome (now that I know!).
It is like getting a front row seat to your favorite movie, watching the world, in a human sized hamster ball.
However, introversion is not so awesome, when interaction requires an immediate response, “breaching the bubble,” for long periods of time. Introverts are thoughtful. “We’re not quick thinkers, but rather deep(er) thinkers” (Klass, 2015).
Some great humanitarians were INFJ personality types: Martin Luther King, Jr., Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela (I don’t know how anyone knows this but they are listed here).
Being an introvert is certainly interesting. I am proud of the depth of my personality. I have and “an inborn sense of idealism and morality.” I have a “yearning for authenticity and sincerity.” I “seek people who share my passions, interests, and ideologies … people with whom I can explore philosophies and subjects that I believe are truly meaningful.” I am “insightful and have a particular knack for seeing beyond others’ facades, interpreting intent and compatibility quickly and easily, and weeding out those who don’t share the depth of my idealism.” To an INFJ, like myself, “the world is a place full of inequity,” in which my mind is always reeling to create balance and harmony.
If you’re like me, it’s easy to feel exhausted, and a much needed retreat to your introvert bubble is necessary, on daily basis.
Believe it or not, there was a proposal to include introversion in the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-5). Rest assured, it was rejected. Laurie Helgoe, Ph.D., stated:
“In the case of a normal but distressed introvert, it may be more appropriate to diagnose a society that exhibits anxiety reactions when someone wants to be alone. Restoring normality is also the role of psychiatry.”
Knowledge is power, my fellow introverts.
I spent many years working as a personal trainer because I LOVE fitness. But, what I did not realize is that I love fitness in my bubble! It is much more difficult to share it, face to face.
Everyone says, “take your passion and use it for good.” Yes! But, that does not mean it has to be face to face. I THRIVE working from home on my lap top. My best, most efficient, laser-focused work has always been done at home – I feel like a machine!
I still love fitness and I can coach online, which gives me the opportunity to reflect as deep as I need to, before I respond.
To create an environment where you can thrive professionally, you first have to know what conditions to put yourself in 😉
If you have not already done so, you can take the personality test here.
Guide to Understanding the Introverted
Good luck, fellow introverts! Pass this along to every introvert you know, or anyone you suspect might be an introvert. There is a fascinating world of introversion waiting for you!
❤
Mel B.